You’ve met the person of your dreams. You crave deep connection and power exchange—but every few months, you're stuck in the same fight over control. One of you won't take it. The other won't give it. Why does this keep happening?

In this workshop, we go far beyond surface-level dynamics to explore the psychology, communication patterns, and behavioral cycles that create recurring power struggles in Power Exchange (PE) relationships.

Using a blend of research, and personal stories we break down the different components of Power Exchange and how missteps in each domain can destabilize even the most consensual dynamics. You'll learn how to identify and correct common errors in leadership, surrender, collaboration, and protocol enforcement.

We will help you stop having the same conflict on repeat—and instead, build a dynamic grounded in clarity, collaboration, and consent.

Master Malcolm entered the lifestyle in 2007 and began an amazing journey of personal growth, Mastery and Leather. Malcolm is a Leatherman, Master, sadist, presenter and producer who is passionate about education and volunteering. Malcolm has had the honor of teaching classes on Power Exchange dynamics, play techniques, and scene creation at many amazing groups around the United States.

Malcolm was involved with Beyond Vanilla from 2010 to 2024, he was Co-Director from 2014 to 2022. Malcolm Co-Produced the Texas Power Exchange Contest from 2021 to 2024.

Farrah Bonnot, MS, LPC: Farrah is a therapist and sex educator and member of the kink, LGBTQIA+, and polyamorous communities, who combines extensive education in the field of mental health with lived experience in kink, power exchange and ethical non-monogamy. She is currently pursuing a PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy and her planned dissertation focuses on the critical issue of distinguishing between consensual sadomasochistic relationships and abuse or intimate partner violence.

Through her clinical work, academic research and presentations, she strives to promote a deeper understanding of the complex dynamics involved in BDSM relationships and to help dispel harmful stereotypes and stigmatization of the kink community. With a passion for inclusivity and social justice, Farrah is committed to supporting the well-being and empowerment of all individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, or relationship structure.

SADE is a not-for-profit kink and BDSM education initiative. We are committed to providing an inclusive, accessible, safe, and consent-focused education for everyone interested in power exchange and authority transfer dynamics. We vet all of our instructors for credibility and ethical standards, and support the community at large by donating proceeds to charity.

At SADE, we believe a quality education should be accessible by all. If you need a scholarship ticket, please email director.sade@gmail.com

If you are able to pay it forward and donate a larger amount, it is greatly appreciated and helps us continue to keep our classes available to everyone.

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